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​Mentoring Others: Be the Mentor You Always Wanted

12/1/2016

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Wham! It happens. Someone just asked you for advice, more than that, they specifically asked you to be their mentor. You feel honored, humbled, proud, ready to help them achieve success and become what they have always wanted. And now you get to help them get there!
 
What happens if this is your first time truly mentoring someone? What if you, for whatever reason, never had a mentor yourself? How do you mentor someone when you don’t necessarily have a model to follow?
 
First, consider your past experiences with your current and former managers, supervisors, parents, grandparents, close friend, parent of a close friend… you get the picture. You may have been mentored and just not noticed it. Sometimes this comes in the forms of subtle advice or questions. Other times, in the form of a little prodding and directing from those that care or cared about you the most.
 
You are looking for the advice, direction, questions, etc. that were bestowed (maybe even forced, with love of course) upon you that helped shape who you are today. What are your most memorable pieces of advice? What were the toughest situations you were placed in that produced the greatest results in the end? For some, this could be facing the neighbor who’s window you just broke and you had to do yard word for them to pay it off. Others may have stood up against the playground bully, defending a friend. Some may have been the playground bully. What did you learn?
 
If you are having a difficult time with this, then consider just being the mentor that you always wanted. What was it you were hoping to get out of the relationship you never had? Hope? Inspiration? Direction? Motivation? Work to define for yourself, what you can offer your mentee. If you have been asked, then you have some characteristics, qualities, and skills your newly found mentee is looking to learn from. So ask them what it is he/she is looking for. Once you find out, you will have some direction.
 
Consider these when mentoring.
  1. Mentoring is a relationship cultivated over time, based on trust. Be true to yourself and them. Always.
  2. Be prepared for your conversations with your mentee. They are learning from you constantly.
  3. Ensure that you are open-minded and able to hear what your mentee is saying. Sometimes, what they are trying to articulate is not what is being said. So, listen closely.
  4. Ask leading questions to get your mentee to think. Often, your mentee has the answer within them, they just need help pulling it out.
  5. Be honest at all times. But don’t be harsh or abrasive. Remember, your mentee will only learn from honest constructive criticism and feedback.
  6. Help them develop their own tools to get there. Provide resources, lessons learned, and so on, to help them develop their tools quickly, but it is important that they develop their own in the process.
  7. Sometimes the best way to learn is to just try. Failing is not a bad thing. You (both) will learn a lot in the process. Failing at something means you were trying something new and it did not go as planned. Well, now you have a better idea of what to do next time.
 
When in doubt, simply remember that the mentor/mentee is a relationship that takes time to develop and is an ongoing process. Just be the mentor you always wanted.
 
Next I will touch on being the mentee and how to make the most out of your mentor/mentee relationship.
 
Jared W. Snow
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6/2/2017 07:17:56 pm

We should strive to teach others about our own knowledge. If we want to increase the amount of intelligent people in the world, we should act on it. In order to receive guidance, we should provide guidance as well. Those whom we provided with help, will surely remember this until the future. This is the reason why I always help others with the best of my capabilities.

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7/11/2017 11:54:01 am

Helping others is an essential characteristic of an effective leader. We learn and develop knowledge through experience and training. Wisdom is knowing when and how to apply our knowledge. To help others, we must learn to be wise.

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